by The Jester
Sexual Chocolate aka Steve Hitchens
The filmmaker who kindly made all of the promotional videos for the convention with many of the speakers finally takes center stage and gets the ball rolling for day 2.
As a guy who “grew up shy”, Steve uprightly admits to building his “models of romance” from television, movies, and pop culture. Like many, he had to instinctively develop it on his own through observation and trial & error. Even the loss of his virginity at age 16 apparently resulted from a friend’s help.
At age 18, Steve moved to the Orange County in Southern California where he was “a dancer on a local TV show.” During this phase he was “dating 6 girls at one time.” However, since this preceded his involvement in game, when the inevitable dry spell hit, he couldn’t rebound because he “didn’t know how to approach correctly.”
Upon discovering the Seduction Community, he gradually advanced until he was doing “approach coaching for Mystery Method, Mehow, and The Asian Playboy.” He also did some work with Hypnotica.
ATTENDEE: “Is there any sign not to approach?”
STEVE: “Dude… you’re a man. There’s no such thing. You’re in this world to fuck and reproduce.”
I couldn’t help but chuckle at the blunt honesty and accuracy of the speaker’s response. After all, questions like that are flawed to begin with. They’re just requests to justify hesitation.
In his slideshow, Steve shares the details of daygame.
PROS OF DAYGAME:
- No waiting in lines, no drunk girls, no cockblockers
- You don’t need all the routines and stories
- It feels more natural
- Looks matter less
- It requires less energy
- An average guy can get double the results with half the energy of night game
- Less women turn out to be flakes, as long as you insta-date (go on instant dates)
- Most hot women don’t go to bars and clubs
In addition to the advantageous reasons Steve listed, one can’t overlook the importance of learning to approach women without depending on the notorious liquid confidence countless guys find themselves depending upon. Even then, if you’re an awkward or creepy person with a few drinks in your system, you’re bound to face them when sober too.
CONS OF DAYGAME:
- Not as many women to talk to
- More effort to overcome feelings of social pressure
STEPS OF DAYGAME:
- Get her attention (“Any man who can get that his desire is not an imposition on a woman, and a woman’s response to his desire is not an evaluation of him, a lot of things become possible for a man.”)
– Yad Stop (run up aside and stop in front of her)
Ex: “Excuse me, I need to tell you something…”
-Social Obligation
Ex: “…where’d you get those shoes? Just kidding, I thought you were cute.”
-The Compliment
Be specific, acknowledge something that you noticed (her energy, style, the way she walks, etc.) - Create attraction
-Teasing
-Pull-push
Pull her in with a compliment, push her out with a tease
-Challenging
-Future projections
-Knowledge
-Flattery - Establish Rapport
- Seduction
MISTAKES GUYS MAKE:
- Failing to fix inner game
When you’re talking about habits and beliefs so far into the subconscious that they date back to childhood, one can only benefit from going through this change. It’s arguably the longest-lasting self-improvement for most men in the community, yet when done correctly it can yield the highest rewards. - They don’t fail enough
During the days I’d host events in Hollywood, I lost count of how many grown men would attend once, open one set, get rejected, and then vanish never to be seen again. Did the women who rejected them pull out a machete and cut off their dick? No. Did a muscular, jealous boyfriend suddenly appear and break his skull in a fury of roid-rage? No. Your life can be shaped around either the pursuit of happiness, or the conformity to fear. You choose. - Shitty openers
- They fail to stop the girl
- Too much flash or high energy
- They run out of things to say
Remember, this isn’t a skill one must only practice with women. Before you can keep a beautiful woman interested in what you have to say, you should be able to accomplish the same thing with family and friends. - They eject too early
- They don’t flip the script and set a qualifying frame (rather, they become “yes” men)
This is where it benefits to mix in teasing, qualifying, and challenging. Those labeled as stereotypical “nice guys” often agree with whatever comes out of the woman’s mouth because they want her to like them, and that can often be the death of the interaction. Remember it’s okay, as Steve put it, to have a “skeptical tone and body language.”
“It’s a god thing. Don’t raise your pitch in order to show over-approval of her words.” - They don’t go on an insta-date
- They don’t make a romantic and sexual connection
The message is still blurry to some because one audience member asks the speaker about women who “don’t like being approached.” Steve patiently reiterates how we “shouldn’t apologize for being a man and wanting a woman.”
Some women are approached by douchebags, but I personally have used the failures of other guys to engage a woman the right way. The sooner you let go of this concept of a perfect time to approach, the sooner you’ll start feeling comfortable with basic conversations.
The clock runs out so Steve mentions his websites and things move right along.
