Category: Field Reports

I’ve been a sucker for male fashion and looking good since I was 16 and started buying my own clothes. It all started because all the teenagers in the baptist church I went to wanted to attract the opposite sex and get noticed so they dressed “to the T” every Sunday. So today I went to the mall in the early afternoon to pick up the brown faux suede shoes I had my eye on last week. I actually like shopping for clothes, which works out perfectly for daygame. Unfortunately, I avoided it for far to long. For as much as I’ve been in malls shopping, I’m positive I’ve lost lots and lots of opportunities to meet some fantastic women by not daygaming. I’ve potentially lost girlfriends and maybe (just maybe) even a wife or two.

Two things struck me today that I will need to work on if I want to get success with daygame:

1) The belief that women in their 20s are too young for me.  After buying my shoes, I walked around the mall thinking I would try approaching if I saw someone interesting.  I didn’t see anyone who I though was age appropriate for me or who I thought was single.  They either had on a wedding ring or they looked to be in their early 20s.  My last girlfriend was 25, so that knocks that reasoning out the window.  Also, I read a field report today where a 31-year old man slept with an 18-year old girl he’d met daygaming who lost her virginity at 16 to a 45-year old friend of her mother.  I don’t agree with sleeping with anyone under 18, but there’s more evidence that women will sleep with someone much older than they are.

2) Eliminate all hesitation.  One of the young 20 something girls that walked by me one gave me a small grin as she looked me dead in my eyes.  I wasn’t use to it as most people I observe in public here in southern California don’t acknowledge anyone.  At first I though “Man, she seems friendly.”  Then I realized how cute she was and the kind of dreamy daze she seemed to be in.  My thought turned to “Damn, that was a HUGE approach invitation for the daytime.”  By the time I realized that and decided to go for it even though she seemed a bit young, I turned around and she was gone.  I searched for her but to no avail. A hard lesson learned.

I’ve never been a big supporter of the 3-second rule in night game.  I don’t approach just any woman in a bar or club just because she’s good looking.  I like to observe her a bit interacting with her friends and others to get a vibe off her beforehand to see if she has the personality and energy that would be compatible with mine.  Today I found out the necessity for something similar to the 3-second rule for daygame.  Since women are on the move during the day, you have to make a quick decision to act simply based on her looks.  From what I’ve learned, you can’t go off her vibe because it my be giving off something completely different than her true personality because she’s in her own world and possibly rushed at the moment.  It’s flipped in daygame.
 

I thought I’d repost this field report by Vann Vinuzzio because it’s the typical experience for anyone new to the game who goes out with me.  Hopefully you can learn something for it.  Leave a comment and tell me what you think.

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This post is regarding my night out on saturday night (05/08/10)

This night was a very uncommon night for me. It was out of my element for several reasons and affected my performance which is actually a great lesson for myself to adapt to different situations in order to be the best I can be. The situations should unveil themselves as you read along.

Sarging site that night was Club Red in Newport Beach which was a club that I’ve never been to. Actually, I’ve never really been to an O.C. crowd club ever so that was the first new element I had to encounter and that was just the beginning.

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The longer you stay in “the game” the more you learn from your experience and from other people. The more you learn, the more you forget because you get complacent and want to try other things. I was listening to some of Ratisse’s stuff yesterday and last night I went back to “working the room” early on in the night and rediscovered its power.

For me, some nights I can just sit around and not talk to anyone because these days I only approach women I’m attracted to.  This tends to lead to having a boring time and the feeling of wasting your night.

In my Casanova Crew talk I said that sometimes random stuff happens when you meet a lot of people in the venue. Last night was no different. I didn’t have any kind of bathroom pull or SNL, but I did make out with a girl in one of the groups, had another in the same set stroking my face while she was telling me the story about meeting and having a huge crush on Rich Fox, and I also got numbers from a few other girls in other groups.

So work the room when you first get into a venue and try to make new friends. If you’re not comfortable doing it at first, keep playing the “video game”. You’ll get better at it I promise.

S.C.