I’ve been a sucker for male fashion and looking good since I was 16 and started buying my own clothes. It all started because all the teenagers in the baptist church I went to wanted to attract the opposite sex and get noticed so they dressed “to the T” every Sunday. So today I went to the mall in the early afternoon to pick up the brown faux suede shoes I had my eye on last week. I actually like shopping for clothes, which works out perfectly for daygame. Unfortunately, I avoided it for far to long. For as much as I’ve been in malls shopping, I’m positive I’ve lost lots and lots of opportunities to meet some fantastic women by not daygaming. I’ve potentially lost girlfriends and maybe (just maybe) even a wife or two.
Two things struck me today that I will need to work on if I want to get success with daygame:
1) The belief that women in their 20s are too young for me. After buying my shoes, I walked around the mall thinking I would try approaching if I saw someone interesting. I didn’t see anyone who I though was age appropriate for me or who I thought was single. They either had on a wedding ring or they looked to be in their early 20s. My last girlfriend was 25, so that knocks that reasoning out the window. Also, I read a field report today where a 31-year old man slept with an 18-year old girl he’d met daygaming who lost her virginity at 16 to a 45-year old friend of her mother. I don’t agree with sleeping with anyone under 18, but there’s more evidence that women will sleep with someone much older than they are.
2) Eliminate all hesitation. One of the young 20 something girls that walked by me one gave me a small grin as she looked me dead in my eyes. I wasn’t use to it as most people I observe in public here in southern California don’t acknowledge anyone. At first I though “Man, she seems friendly.” Then I realized how cute she was and the kind of dreamy daze she seemed to be in. My thought turned to “Damn, that was a HUGE approach invitation for the daytime.” By the time I realized that and decided to go for it even though she seemed a bit young, I turned around and she was gone. I searched for her but to no avail. A hard lesson learned.
I’ve never been a big supporter of the 3-second rule in night game. I don’t approach just any woman in a bar or club just because she’s good looking. I like to observe her a bit interacting with her friends and others to get a vibe off her beforehand to see if she has the personality and energy that would be compatible with mine. Today I found out the necessity for something similar to the 3-second rule for daygame. Since women are on the move during the day, you have to make a quick decision to act simply based on her looks. From what I’ve learned, you can’t go off her vibe because it my be giving off something completely different than her true personality because she’s in her own world and possibly rushed at the moment. It’s flipped in daygame.