I’m having a ball here right now. Last time I was here was Christmas of 2005 and I cut my trip short because I felt like a fish out of water. If you don’t know me, I’m African-American and practically everyone here is Caucasian, Asian or Middle Eastern. I didn’t have enough tools last time to be social and meet people. Now it’s completely different.
The first night I went to a few bars in Darling Harbor with another community guy from Brisbane. I opened almost all group sets, transitioned into some kino routines and all the girls all loved it. I even hooked a bachelorette set with a joke palm reading routine I made up on the spot. They loved it so much they started taking pictures of me doing this shit!
Ran into Tyler D. and had the pleasure of gaming the same chick.
Later on something odd happend. I got my first 3-way kiss of the year with these 2 girls from the U.S. (I’m going to try to get the picture of it), pulled them back to my hotel with the guy from Brisbane, got them up to the room, got the music going, tried to separate them to get things happening… and they bolted! WTF!
Anyway, we shrugged it off and went out gamming agian. Oh well.
So tonight I realized how much my mindset has changed in the last 1.5 years and that I need to hang with guys who are like-minded.
Tonight I met up with some friends, of a friend, of a friend. While these guys are cool guys and what you would consider alpha, their mindset was infections and fuck up half my night.
I use to walk in to a club, walk around to check out what kind of talent was there, and then wait for something to happen… something to “pop off”. I was so reaction seeking back then. I’d wait for IOIs, stare at girls and see if they’d give me extended eye contact, wait for them to ask me to dance, etc. This is exactly what these 4 guys did tonight and what they do every night when they walk into the club.
I’m not bashing them for their style, it’s just that I have more tools in my toolbox now. It’s my fault for letting this mindset infect me.
Once I stepped away from them a few hours later, collected my thoughts and grabbed my balls, I ended up meeting a really sexy Ausie girl who has been dancing since the second grade and a pre-school teacher who stared me down. (I love teachers. They’re conservative during the day and freaks at night!) I have both of their numbers so we’ll see what happens.
Anyway, I can’t let that shit happen to me again. When it does I feel like shit and I also feel like I’ve wasted my whole f’ing night. Right now so every night is precious.
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So the day2 with HBDancer is in the bag.
We started out with the touristy stuff first by walking around The Rocks, which is one of the oldest parts of Sydney. It wasn’t very exciting at first until we stumbled upon an art gallery with the artwork of Nelson Mandela on display. She lit up because she had recently read his autobiography. My goal the whole day was to pump her emotions, do some grounding, get her to talk about her early family and childhood, etc. This stop at the art gallery accomplished the first task.
We then walked by the harbor to take a look at the opera house and then decided to head to the Easter Show, which is like a county fair out here. This was a perfect opportunity to pump her emotions on a crazy-ass ride that did things to my body that it isn’t suppose to experience.
One thing I was conscious of when I first met her was to do lots of kino. But then when we met for the day2, to hold off on any hand holding or kissing for a while until the right time came. I would however throw in a little incidental touching here and there as not to be aloof. After the ride, I felt it a good time to establish more of a connection with some soothing handholding and hugging.
So we left the Easter Show, rode the train back and she wanted to take me to her favorite spot in Sydney, which is on a peninsula next to the water. A make out session ensued along with my hand down her pants and us talking about how we were both having “dirty thoughts”. I didn’t try to push sex because it was late and she had to get up early in the morning for work. It’s so on that I can wait until tonight.
Since she mentioned that she was conservitive when we met, one thing I made a point of doing on this day2 was to get her to experience things out of her comfort zone to pump her emotions. She has reservations about riding the train alone and we did that, we rode one of the best rides I’ve ever been on, she was slightly afraid of heights and we rode the big-ass ferris wheel, and we were making out on the edge of a small cliff. While all these things were going on, I would have some kind of kino going.
Anyways, we’ll see what pops off tonight.
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So this is going to be the most boring lay report.
HBDancer came over at about 7:30 by taxi to go to dinner. Since she does own a car and she only lives about 20 from where I’m staying, I had a gut feeling she planned on coming up to my hotel room and staying awhile after dinner.
We walked to dinner off Darling Harbor. Very nice atmosphere. She paid. I tried to pay, but no dice. For some reason I always find the girls that don’t mind treating. I’m definitely not complaining.
After dinner she asked me what I felt like doing next. Rather than suggesting that we go straight back to my hotel, I thought for a while on what there would be to do on a Tuesday night, threw out some boring ideas, and immediately brushed them off. The only remaining thing left to do was go back to my hotel and hang out. She agreed.
We get back to my hotel room, threw on some music, laid on the bed looking at each other while chatting for a bit, and then started making out. I spent about 45 min. to an hour on foreplay and we did the deed. No LMR to report.
I think the reason I tend to get very little LMR is because I spend A LOT of time getting girls hot and bothered before I try to have sex with them. This includes a ton of kissing while massaging her back, a little hair pulling, ear and neck nibbling, nipple sucking, clit tickling, and Steve P’s hook. I don’t go down on chicks that often unless she’s REALLY hot or she’s a girlfriend who likes it. (You’ve probably heard that brothas don’t do that anyway. No worries… As my new buddy in Dallas said last time I was there: “It’s not racist… it’s just a stereotype.”)
During foreplay she kept saying, “That’s not fair.” I asked her what she meant by that and she said, “I’m not going to be able to control myself.”
The only bad thing is she’s too fucking quiet during sex. She says it’s because she’s shy. I need moans and groans to know I’m getting the job done.
My first Australian lay. A big switch from last time I was here.
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Last night I had a SNL that resulted from me getting caught by a girl looking at her friend’s ass. I shrugged my shoulders with the attitude of “Yeah, I was looking at her ass. So what, I’m a guy. What do you expect? It’s a nice ass too.” We joked about it for a while and the girl with the nice ass ended up coming to sit next to me to continue our banter and then asked my name. Bingo!
When I went to qualify her, I asked her what her 3 best qualities are. She flipped the question back on me, which was ok because I wanted to take the convo a little sexual. I talked about how I give great massages, I’m a great kisser and I always satisfy my women sexually. It got a very positive reaction and she gave a response that was similar in nature.
We talked a bit more, we danced, I isolated her to a table away from the crowd (I’m working on isolation) and went for the kiss. We kissed for a little bit and then I wanted to try a new extraction tactic that my new buddy Science~ from the field report above told me about.
Since she was really into the kissing, I said “Wow, the things I would do to you if we were alone right now.” Her response was “What do we have to do to do that?” My response… “Go to my hotel.” After saying goodbye to her friends, off we went.
I got a tinge of LMR because she has never gone home with someone so quickly. But since it came up when we were just lying there naked and talking, I laid there with her talking a little bit more and then started up again. No problem closing.
My second lay in a week during my trip here to Sydney. Again… BIG, BIG switch from last time. Let’s see what happens this weekend.
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Nothing to report for the weekend in terms of new lays. I pretty much kicked it with HBDancer and the SNL for most of the weekend.
I did run into Lovedrop and Moxie doing a workshop at CargoBar on Friday night. I was told by someone I respect in the game that I should attend one of Lovedrop’s lectures, so I talked to him for a little bit about that.
Lovedrop remembered me because I attended one of MM special workshops in Feb. of last year. The reason he remembered me was because he said I am the only black guy to ever do a workshop that he’s ever been a part of. Weird!
Game is game… and game can always get better if you continue to learn and develop. I could go on for hours about the value of learning from people who are successful at something you love doing, but this isn’t what this post is all about.
Anyway, I just sat back and watched him and the other guys work for a while. I talked to a few girls, got another phone number, but I pumped her buying temperature a little too much plus she was drunk, so I knew after she was gone nothing would come of it. I was right.
Flew back on Monday and was glad to be back home again.