Author: Sexual Chocolate

Day 2

The first approach of the challenge was a really cute brunette that I saw studying at the Tustin public library when I went to do some work there. Since she was in the quite study area I waited until I saw her when the library closed and approached her outside, told her I noticed her, and asked what she was studying.  I made assumptions about her wanting to be a nurse and we talked a bit longer until she told me she had a long-term boyfriend. I gave her my card and told her that if she has any cute girlfriends she could hook me up with to give me a buzz. (2 points)

Day 3

While shooting some footage for a friend for his pilot outside of a children’s shelter in Orange I approached a tattooed brunette with a really nice ass by asking if she’s there to drop off toys too.  I gave an observation that she looked like a young Pat Benatar with a clipboard.  She was a bit too dismissive and bitchy for my tastes so I let her go. (2 points)

I walked across the street to The Block to see if I could find anything interesting, but no luck.  I like the diversity of The Block though.  There were more Hispanic women there than other malls I’ve been to in OC.  I’m definitely going to have to come back and check things out.

Day 4

I was in Ontario for a few days visiting a friend in the hospital so I decided to try gaming at Victoria Gardens, an outdoor shopping center in the Inland Empire.  It was about 4 pm and there were literally no attractive women walking around.  So rather that waste the venue, I decided to just go for approaching not so attractive women to continue building momentum for the week.  I did 11 approaches, including a few 2-sets, by asking a simple question like if they knew where the nearest Whole Foods Market was. (11 points)

I’ve got my 15 points for the week already, but I’m definately not stopping there.

Day 6

Today I The Spectrum in Irvine at about 2pm with Jimmy Xeno.  The lack of attractive and older women during that time of day resulted in us just approaching women we weren’t that attracted to, who were married (evidenced by the big rock on their left hand ring finger), and who may be a bit too young.  Jimmy’s goal was to get at least 5 points before leaving.  With a little nudging, he achieved his goal.  I ended up getting another 3 points.

Day 8

I joined Jimmy Xeno again at The Spectrum around 2pm so he could finish off his 15 points for the week, which he did.  We discussed trying to find a new venue due to the lack of approachable women walking around.  Most seemed too young or married.

After J.X. left to go to work, I stuck around to see if the evening would be any better.

The fist approach was a petite, shapely blond walking around with a white toy poodle.  I opened with an observation about how she seems old enough to go to bars and clubs and asked if she knew what kind of nightlife was around.  I turned the conversation around to talking about her and we got to the topic of her not going out much anymore due to her being in a relationship.  A little more small talk and I told her to have a nice one.

While walking my car to go get some food, I opened a girl walking slightly behind me.  I don’t know if she was Middleastern or Hispanic but she did have her heir dyed red, which have her a very interesting look.  I opened with asking if she know where any fast food restaurants were and then the conversation turned to her working at the mall, living in Bellflower and driving all the way to Irvine for work, and her being an artist.  Used the “kamikaze close”, get her phone number, and went on my way.

Looks like I’ll end the week with 23 points. Next week I work on being more direct during the daytime.
 

Since I’ve made a decision focus on learning daygame, I’ve organized a 30-day challenge with a few other guys on the CasanovaCrew.com forum.  Here are the guidelines:

Time Frames – The challenge will be for the entire month of December.  A week begins on Monday and ends Sunday of each week during of the month.  The end of the first week will be considered Sunday December 9th.  The end of the 4th week will be considered Monday December 31st.

Point System – You must achieve a minimum of 15 points each week from girls you’ve met daygaming during the month.  No nightgame sets.  Points for the same interaction (same set) are not cumulative.  Only give yourself points for the highest success level achieved during that interaction.  So if you opened a girl and got her phone number, you wouldn’t give yourself 4 points for both.  You’d only give yourself 3 points.  But if you get a phone number and meet up with the girl for a Day 2 (separate interactions), you’ll give yourself 8 points.  By the end of the month you should have a minimum of 60 points.

1 point – Approaching: You can approach with anything, as long as you just approach and talk to a woman outside of a nightclub environment.

2 points – An extended conversation: Talking past the opener.

3 points – Getting a phone number: “Number closing” as they say.

5 points – An instant date or Day 2: Bouncing a girl you just met to a sit down location or getting her out on a date later that day or another day during the month.

10 points – Same Day Lay or F-Close: Moving a girl from the street to the bedroom and “laying the pipe” as me and my friends use to say.

15 points – Threesome: If you can do this, you don’t need this fucking challenge.  I’ll take your damn seminar.

Report In – Report your points achieved and activity or at the very minimum the end of each week (Sunday).  Post full field reports or a summary of your activities for each time you go out daygaming.

Accountability – Since this is about actually going out and doing something, we in the group will hold each other accountable for sticking to the commitment of daygaming during month.  If you don’t achieve your 15 points for the week, you agree to give $10 for each point you don’t achieve during the week to a charity of a majority vote.

Final Report – On December 31st report your total points achieved, your progress over the month, what you learned, what you’ll keep doing, what you’ll change, etc.

Men in the challenge:

• Me
• robhay
• laughandpeeabit
• Cougar
• RogueWolf
• jimmy xeno
• Ghostbuster
• brozenify

Since daygame forces you to deal with I haigher level of social pressure than night game, I’ll also be working on Inner Game almost daily during the month as well.
 

I’ve been a sucker for male fashion and looking good since I was 16 and started buying my own clothes. It all started because all the teenagers in the baptist church I went to wanted to attract the opposite sex and get noticed so they dressed “to the T” every Sunday. So today I went to the mall in the early afternoon to pick up the brown faux suede shoes I had my eye on last week. I actually like shopping for clothes, which works out perfectly for daygame. Unfortunately, I avoided it for far to long. For as much as I’ve been in malls shopping, I’m positive I’ve lost lots and lots of opportunities to meet some fantastic women by not daygaming. I’ve potentially lost girlfriends and maybe (just maybe) even a wife or two.

Two things struck me today that I will need to work on if I want to get success with daygame:

1) The belief that women in their 20s are too young for me.  After buying my shoes, I walked around the mall thinking I would try approaching if I saw someone interesting.  I didn’t see anyone who I though was age appropriate for me or who I thought was single.  They either had on a wedding ring or they looked to be in their early 20s.  My last girlfriend was 25, so that knocks that reasoning out the window.  Also, I read a field report today where a 31-year old man slept with an 18-year old girl he’d met daygaming who lost her virginity at 16 to a 45-year old friend of her mother.  I don’t agree with sleeping with anyone under 18, but there’s more evidence that women will sleep with someone much older than they are.

2) Eliminate all hesitation.  One of the young 20 something girls that walked by me one gave me a small grin as she looked me dead in my eyes.  I wasn’t use to it as most people I observe in public here in southern California don’t acknowledge anyone.  At first I though “Man, she seems friendly.”  Then I realized how cute she was and the kind of dreamy daze she seemed to be in.  My thought turned to “Damn, that was a HUGE approach invitation for the daytime.”  By the time I realized that and decided to go for it even though she seemed a bit young, I turned around and she was gone.  I searched for her but to no avail. A hard lesson learned.

I’ve never been a big supporter of the 3-second rule in night game.  I don’t approach just any woman in a bar or club just because she’s good looking.  I like to observe her a bit interacting with her friends and others to get a vibe off her beforehand to see if she has the personality and energy that would be compatible with mine.  Today I found out the necessity for something similar to the 3-second rule for daygame.  Since women are on the move during the day, you have to make a quick decision to act simply based on her looks.  From what I’ve learned, you can’t go off her vibe because it my be giving off something completely different than her true personality because she’s in her own world and possibly rushed at the moment.  It’s flipped in daygame.